The Best Gift Ever....

Today's the last frenzied day of shopping for those who celebrate Christmas and I had a moment of quiet this morning to reflect upon this year and the gifts I've given and received. Though it's nice to share a few specially selected gifts on Christmas morning, my family's tradition, like to many others, used to be a gorging of gift giving that was over the top. Like candy, gift giving is good for the first few - after than it can start to be a bit sickening. Though I've scaled way back over the past few years as have many others - both out of necessity and out of a new consciousness - I still looked around this year and saw the signs of frenzy starting back up. It's like the past few years have been a forced austerity that people are ready to be done with. The problem is that we can't go back to the way things were - they weren't sustainable nor were they particularly good. However, there is something wonderfully sustainable that has come from all of this -

People have started to look at what is of value in their lives. I know I have. Having started a business right before the floor of our economy collapsed beneath us, I've had my share of sleepless nights, worried days, exhausted emotionally wrung out weeks. Sure, we could have claimed to be too far under and simply closed the business - but we chose to hang in there and see where this path lead us.

So, in the quiet of this morning, I saw clearly the gifts given me. The gift of friendship where I least expected it; the gift of support from complete strangers; the gift of good cheer (and just a bit of cheerleading) from close friends who simply gave me encouragement when all seemed bleak. In return, I provided a bit of my own cheeleading to them when their days were dark.

A good friend of mine moved her family 2,000 miles to take advantage of an opportunity that presented itself to her family. In the midst of the move, she wondered about her choice and worried about her sanity. It happened to be at a time that things were on a bit of an even keel for me. I was able to return the favor of support, even at a distance, of just being there.

I think about others in my life who've turned to me for support, assistance and cheerleading and hope I've been as good a friend to them as they have to me. After all, that's the gift exchange that matters.

So, this Christmas, I'll open a few gifts but more importantly, I will acknowledge the help I got all year long as the best gift ever.

Thanks to my family, friends, loved ones and perfect (very perfect) strangers for all that good cheer for the past 364 days. Here's to the best gift ever.

Now, go just out there and share the love.

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'Tis The Season...For Less, Not More

The flurry of advertising on TV and in the last vestiges of newspapers around the country is amazing this time of year. Who knew there was still so much appetite for stuff? Well, I guess the advertisers knew (or hoped), but still, it was surprising. I guess Americans are a bit like drug addicts when it comes to buying stuff...and now that we've had a forced "dry spell" due to abysmal economic conditions, well, we're ready to get back to 'normal'....but wait, what IS the new normal these days anyway?

I was recently in Florida helping my mother move to Arizona. She's essentially trading hot and humid for hot and dry - so it's not a big change from that perspective. But she is also paring down and going from a 2 bedroom apartment to a 1 bedroom apartment. The process of helping her go through her belongings and decide what to keep, what to give away, what to recycle and what to simply toss was a very eye-opening experience. For every drawer and closet door we opened, I imagined a similar drawer or door at my own house...and I thought about how much stuff I've accumulated over the years. I'm not a major shopper, but I still have more stuff than I need or can use.

As we were sorting through my mother's things, I said "Hey, Alex would probably really like to have this," or "If you don't want this, I wonder if Leslie would like to have this." It reminded me that re-gifting can actually be a wonderful thing - making use of items we no longer want. It's not actually re-gifting, I guess, since it belongs to someone who is giving it away - so it's perhaps the 'new' gifting?

We sorted and made piles - one pile of things was headed to a woman who was sending clothing to Haiti; another to my niece who appreciates nice scarves and interesting earrings; another pile to be given as gifts during the holidays - framed family pictures my mother was ready to hand on to the next generation. Some items were set aside as lovely gifts for family members - not with the intention of pretending they were new, but just new to them. Think of it as recycling and reuse rather than re-gifting - the new green holiday tradition!

For me it was also a good reminder that this time of year really shouldn't be about the stuff, but about the relationships in our lives we hold dear. In our family this year, we're forgoing all but small gift giving and instead spending time together.

And, for those of you who have family situations that are more challenging than you can handle this time of year, volunteer for a day at an assisted living facility or a food bank or a shelter. Give of your time and you have given a priceless gift.

This holiday season, share the love.

Happy Holidays from all of us at shopOrganic.com.
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